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The root of violence

by Alice Miller

several years ago that is scientifically proven the devastating effects of trauma inflicted children will inevitably impact on society. This truth applies to every individual separately and should, if sufficiently well known, lead to fundamentally change our society, and especially blind growth free of violence. The following points illustrate this thesis.

• Each child comes into the world to expand, grow, love, express their needs and feelings.


• In order to develop, children need the respect and protection of adults taking it seriously, loving and helping you navigate.


• When we exploit the child to meet our needs as an adult, when we hit, punish, manipulate, neglect, abuse it, or deceive, with never any witnesses involved in its favor, its integrity will suffer from an incurable wound.


• child's normal reaction to this injury would be anger and pain. But in his loneliness, he would experience excruciating pain and the anger is prohibited. He has no other choice than to contain their feelings, repress the memory of trauma and idealize their abusers. Later will not be any memory of what they have done.

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• feelings of anger, helplessness, despair, longing, anguish and pain, disconnected from their true origin, they try by all means to express themselves through acts of destruction, which is directed against others (crime, genocide), or against themselves (drug addiction, alcoholism, prostitution, psychic disorders, suicide).


• When we become parents, we often use our own children as scapegoats: persecution, moreover, fully legitimized by society, even enjoying a certain prestige from the moment that is adorned with the title education. The tragedy is that father or abuse their child's mother not to feel what they did to their parents. So sits the root of future violence.


• For an abused child does not become either a criminal or mentally ill need to find, at least once in their life, someone who knows rightly that it is he who is ill, but people around him. It is only in this way that the clarity or lack of clarity on the part of society can help save a child's life or help destroy it. This is the responsibility of those working in the field of social assistance, therapists, teachers, psychiatrists, doctors, officials, nurses.


• So far, the company has sustained and charged adult victims. It has been comforted in their blindness to theories that are in close agreement with those in the education of our grandparents, and who see the child to be false, with an evil mind, a liar, that is attacking their innocent parents or sexual desires . The truth is that each child tends to feel guilty about the cruelty of their parents. And despite everything, still love them, so excuse them of their responsibility.


• only a few years ago, it has been proved, thanks to new therapeutic approaches that traumatic experiences childhood, repressed, are written in the body and unconsciously impact throughout the life of the individual. Furthermore, the computers that recorded the reactions of children in the womb, have shown that the baby feels and learns from the beginning of his life's tenderness, the same way you can learn the cruelty.

• With this view, every absurd behavior reveals its logic, hitherto hidden in the same instant the traumatic experiences come to light.
  Once aware of the childhood trauma and its effects can stop the perpetuation of violence from generation to generation.

• Children, whose integrity has not been damaged, who have obtained their parents' protection, respect and sincerity required, adolescents and adults become intelligent, sensitive, caring and open. Love life and will not need to go against the other, or themselves, let alone suicide. Use their force only to defend themselves. Naturally protect and respect the weak and therefore their own children because they themselves have known the experience of the respect and protection and this memory is not the cruelty of which will be engraved on them.

More about Alice Miller:
http://www.screamsfromchildhood.com/articulos_alice_miller.html
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http://www.tenemostetas. com/2009/08/la-raiz-de-la-violencia-por-alice.html